A Voice That Cries In The Dark : My story about depression

Rest In Peace Mindy McCready and Don Cornelius

I am sharing my personal story about my battle with depression. There are a lot of people going through depression. According to NAMI, about 1 and 10 americans suffered from some form of depression. The sad part is about more than half don’t recieve the proper care they need. Here is my story I hope it will help someone else. If you would like to share your story please email me at TiffanyReneeBlogs@gmail.com. For information about depression please visit NAMI.ORG.  Love you

Rest In Peace Mindy McCready and Don Cornelius.

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Death To The New Year Resolution…Start a Campaign !!!!!

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Let us put an end to pointless New Year Resolutions…Start a Campaign. What I mean by that is to make a progressive plan towards a specific purpose this 2013 year. When I say progressive, I mean you are constantly working on achieving your goal and not starting and stopping after three weeks. It’s your time… Be Bold and Become a movement!!!

Steps to start your campaign.

  1. Create a simple plan. (Make plain and attainable to reach)
  2. Write your goal down and make it visible. (Use a card, sticky note or sheet a paper and write your goal for 2013 and place it somewhere where you can see it each day.)
  3. Do your research (Before embarking on a new project or relationship, make sure you do your homework and decide if  this is the best fit for you.)
  4. Close the revolving door. ( People that like to pop in and out your life gotta go!!!! You can wave at them from the window. )
  5. Have a Tiger mentality. Be Bold and Unafraid
  6. Take small steps to achieve a bigger goal.
  7. Surround yourself with innovate people. (Leeches and Snakes gotta go in 2013)
  8. Free your mind from social media clutter. (Don’t “troll”to long on Facebook)
  9. Stop It… Damn what they think!!! ( Don’t worry about other people just do you.)
  10. Kill complacency
  11. Keep Calm and enjoy life….

“I Won’t Let This Commercialism Ruin My Christmas” Tiff’s Christmas Story

“I Won’t Let This Commercialism Ruin My Christmas”

Tiff’s Christmas Story

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            As a little girl, I have always enjoyed Christmas and the spirit that surrounds it. People seem to be little bit nicer and kinder to each other during the holidays. This is a time in your own unique way can show your Christmas spirit towards each other. I had a ritual around Christmas time that I stick to this day. I had to see the following Christmas movies; Charlie Brown’s Christmas, Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, Christmas Story( you’ll shoot your eye out), and National Lampoon Christmas Vacation. I always loved the Charlie Brown’s Christmas story because of the message behind. While everyone was caught up in the materialistic side of Christmas, Charlie Brown stuck to the true meaning of Christmas by having a little bitty Christmas tree. As he stated, “I won’t let all this commercialism ruin my Christmas.” I think me and Charlie Brown could agree. Honestly, I think people have forgotten the true meaning of Christmas. Instead, we are fighting for the last flat screen television and knocking someone out for it (Sorry Manny Pacquiao…) during black Friday.  This is a time we spend with our families and share in the joy of the holiday. Moreover, we give back to the children and families who are not able to have anything under the tree and on the table. In my belief system, I believe that we are the hands and feet of God and if you have done to least of them, you have also paid honor to him. I know during the time of the immense fiscal cliff, where people have no jobs, losing homes, and sometimes losing their hope and faith it is hard to smile. I know personally in 2012 I have gone through a lot. Despite of it all, I still smile.  I have been through a lot such as

  • Losing two family members (grandmother and uncle) to some form of cancer.
  • Having a best friend of mine constantly going in and out of the hospital.
  • The frustration of college graduate and not being able to find a job in her field and living off one income
  • Being unemployed (everyone can agree with that)
  • Dealing me and my husband mental health.

This year alone I have been diagnosed with moderate depression and there were times I could not get out of bed. Instead, I would take sleeping pills and hang up dark curtains in my windows to block out the sunshine. I had so many negative thoughts and even doubted my faith. As Christian, this walk gets so hard that even you lose your faith in God. Imagine me, I was singing in choir pretending to have it all together but falling apart day by day. I became a moving zombie with no emotions, dreams or aspirations. Until one day, there was a ray of light shine through my dark tomb I built of shame, disappointment, and personal failure. Day by Day I climbed and pressed my way through past what I was feeling.  Now, I am grateful I have overcome depression with joy, peace, clarity and hunger for infinite wisdom.  Even though, I don’t have as much I am truly grateful for living and ability to tell my story to you. Even though the situation around you looks grim, I have hope in the fact over the mountain there is sunshine. I’m sure it gets hard to climb but keep pushing through. The most important thing I learn is you are not only one going through it.  There is someone else who has been where you are and can provide words of wisdom to help you.

How can you make this Christmas better for you???

  • Be appreciative of things you do have.

Reflect on the positive things in your life and hope for better things to come.

  • Be Proactive in your community

Try to volunteer at a homeless shelter, give a toy to a child, or donate to worthy cause. Charity is the greatest gift you can give to another.

  • Forgive and Let It Go

Unforgiveness is like carrying a building on your back. It gets heavy, makes you angry all the time and clouds your judgment.

The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to forgive someone who hurt you. Trust me it is not for them but it is for you. You can write a letter or send a Christmas card afterwards put it out your mind and move on .

  • Spend time with the ones you love

This is time where family is important and the centerpiece of the holiday. Take the time out and spend with your family especially the elder members because you never know if this Christmas will be their last.

  • Give a hug

Shock the hell out of someone you can’t stand and give them hug. See their reaction. Invoke your positive spirit into them. If they ask, you just stay, “ It’s looks like you need one.”

 

In conclusion, make this Christmas a good one for you and the people around by staying positive. I hope one Christmas day, people can share the love and get back to true meaning of Christmas.  I leave you words from my favorite Christmas song by  Steve Wonder

 

Someday at Christmas there’ll be no wars
When we have learned what Christmas is for
When we have found what life’s really worth
There’ll be peace on earth

Someday all our dreams will come to be
Someday in a world where men are free
Maybe not in time for you and me
But someday at Christmastime

Someday at Christmas we’ll see a land
With no hungry children, no empty hand
One happy morning people will share
Our world where people care

Someday at Christmas there’ll be no tears
All men are equal and no men have fears
One shining moment, one prayer away
From our world today

Someday all our dreams will come to be
Someday in a world where men are free
Maybe not in time for you and me
But someday at Christmastime

I dedicated this story my angel who still watches over me to this day and she taught me the true meaning of Christmas. Even though on December 15th leaves a damper on my heart, I know we are never apart. I love you Grandma

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Da Jam For The Day 5/31/12

Blow—- Amerie

Amerie, now like to referred to as Ameriie,  is an exotic singer with the lite soprano voice. Ameriie came onto the scene in the 2000 with her debut album All I Have. Since, she has had some hits like Why Don’t We Fall In Love , Talkin 2 Me, 1 Thing and Why R U? This song “Blow” was  on her Because I Love it mixtape. Yes, she did had a mixtape. “Blow” gives a hard rock feel that gets you going. It is currently one the songs of my workout playlist that I get really amped about. The song talks about her dream to making in the music  business and how the determination keeps her going forth. My favorite line is when she says, ” The one and only reason I don’t stop. Because I love it”  that line describes how I feel about making on day in Public Relations. I can definitely say this is my go-getter theme song. Whenever I’m feeling down about not making in the Public Relations business, I listen to this song and I keep pushing. I do believe one day I am going to Blow.

If I could classify this song, I would say this a TRUE MOTIVATION GO GETTER THEME song.

Go Get It—Mary Mary

I absolutely love Mary Mary songs. They give true inspiration with a gospel ministering feel. Mary Mary is the contemporary gospel that fuse R&B stylings with a positive gospel message. As they expressed, the gospel is supposed to inspire and help people outside the church walls.”Go Get It” is definitely as inspirational song for anyone who believes in achieving their purpose. I heard this song while I was in depressive stage. God gave me a vision and it didn’t seem  like it was going to manifest. I got discouraged until I heard this song and it made believe in my vision again.  There is verse in this song that speaks to me a lot.

“Yo Faith ain’t never small that’s what brought you this far See you got your dreams and you got your prayers and you got Yo God he gone take you there See everybody has a season and I believe this one’s yours Cuz you been workin, waitin, this what you been prayin for.”

The vocal stylings of the Erica and Tina are so powerful. It gives that old gospel down home feel when you hear their voice. The beat composed by producer Warryn Campbell makes it very hot track.

If I could classify this song, it would be PICK YOURSELF UP song.

How To Recover After A Storm…

 

Recover—– To regain the strength, composure, balance or the like of (oneself) as defined by dictionary.com

I have heard that life is not a crystal stair. This line taken from the  poem written by one of the influential writers in history Langston Hughes sums up the trials we go through in life. We live our lives daily trying to make it to the next day.  None of us are prepared for the unexpected bumps in the road or storms. What is a storm? A storm is a disturbance of the normal condition of the atmosphere manifesting itself by winds of unusual force or direction as defined by dictionary.com. We have norms in our life that we live by everyday. When something unexpected happens, it really disturbs  the natural balance  in our life. What is there to do? How do you prepare for the unexpected? The answer is….. there is nothing you can do to prepare for the unexpected but there are ways to sustain yourself during the unexpected.

1. Realize that all storms are temporary.

I know this statement sounds a bit redundant but it is true. Have you ever known thunderstorm to last 365 days? If so please tell me…. When you are going through a storm, whether it’s a break-up, job loss, death of a family member or mental distortion, you have to remember this time is only temporary. The view may seem grim but the ride is short.   Sure, when you are going through, you think I cannot ever recover from this or you say to yourself what did I do to deserve this. You didn’t do anything and yes, you can recover from it.  The storm is there only to bring out the best in you.  Although, the wind is blowing and the lighting is flashing remember you having everything inside of you to defeat it. It’s ok to cry, grieve and get mad but after you do remember there is a battle you have to fight.

2. Learn to walk in the rain

When I was in the military, we used to run in the rain. Our drill Sargent would say to us ” If it is not raining, we ain’t training.” At that time, I could not gasp the concept but now I get a revitalizing feeling whenever I run or walk in the rain. Sounds Crazy??? The rain is needed on the earth to make plants grow. While you are going through your personal storm you can live and look good through it. Remember, the rain symbolizes growth so in this time you are growing into better person than you were before.

3. Evaluate your circles

As human beings , there is a deep desire to connect with others with the same background or ideas as us. We travel with circle of friends that stemmed from school, home or work. I like to classify  some of the people in my life as inner and outer circles. With my outer circle , these are people  are sometimes referred to as “associates” they could be business partners or classmates.  The inner circle is people whom I like to call my backbone. These people could write a whole book about me because they have stuck with me through the best of times and the worst of times. When you are going through a personal storm, you began to see who deserves to keep their place in your life. If you have someone who is willing to help you through the trenches  that person is a keeper. They usually are quiet  but can pray with you through the storm. The others will show their true colors once you are going through and they will be the first one to disappear in the first sign of danger. Those people you need to leave them alone and in the dust because they don’t deserve you. During the trying times, you will surely see which people are there to make you better and get rid of the ones who are there to kill your dream.

4. Find your place of peace

Finding your place of peace  is an easy mission to accomplish. Some people find their place of peace through prayer, meditation and reading of the scriptures. There is a sound peace in knowing there is someone greater than ourselves  who can handle the cares of the world. We can boldly go to them , tell them what is on our hearts and know that we are heard. Another way to find your place of peace is through the partaking in the arts such as listening to music, reading a book, drawing and writing. These outlets give our minds a break from all the commotion. It takes our mind to a peaceful place beyond our current surroundings. A change of scenery is another way to find your place of peace.  Getting away  or going out-of-town  always  brings a fresh renewal  to me.  You can take a long walk by the river or lake and just be still. This gets the mind  out of panic mode and forces it to relation mode.  Lastly, physical activity  can stimulate your mind as well as your body. Take a part of any physical activity  whether it’s dancing , exercising or playing sports. In the end, you will feel a sense of accomplishment from day to day.  To find your place of peace will help relieve the current stress and help focus on your next strategy.

Remember this, we all go through these storms or ills of life.  Yes, they are emotional , heartbreaking and stressful. In the end, you will be a better person than you were before. Take this time to focus on you and making yourself better for the next mission. Keep your eyes on the prize and never lose sight of your goal. After every storm, there is a rainbow and at end of  every rainbow there is a pot of gold. Make sure you find your pot of gold and hold on to it. What is that pot of gold? Hope for a brighter and richer future !

For Erica….