A Voice That Cries In The Dark : My story about depression

Rest In Peace Mindy McCready and Don Cornelius

I am sharing my personal story about my battle with depression. There are a lot of people going through depression. According to NAMI, about 1 and 10 americans suffered from some form of depression. The sad part is about more than half don’t recieve the proper care they need. Here is my story I hope it will help someone else. If you would like to share your story please email me at TiffanyReneeBlogs@gmail.com. For information about depression please visit NAMI.ORG.  Love you

Rest In Peace Mindy McCready and Don Cornelius.


Death To The New Year Resolution…Start a Campaign !!!!!


Let us put an end to pointless New Year Resolutions…Start a Campaign. What I mean by that is to make a progressive plan towards a specific purpose this 2013 year. When I say progressive, I mean you are constantly working on achieving your goal and not starting and stopping after three weeks. It’s your time… Be Bold and Become a movement!!!

Steps to start your campaign.

  1. Create a simple plan. (Make plain and attainable to reach)
  2. Write your goal down and make it visible. (Use a card, sticky note or sheet a paper and write your goal for 2013 and place it somewhere where you can see it each day.)
  3. Do your research (Before embarking on a new project or relationship, make sure you do your homework and decide if  this is the best fit for you.)
  4. Close the revolving door. ( People that like to pop in and out your life gotta go!!!! You can wave at them from the window. )
  5. Have a Tiger mentality. Be Bold and Unafraid
  6. Take small steps to achieve a bigger goal.
  7. Surround yourself with innovate people. (Leeches and Snakes gotta go in 2013)
  8. Free your mind from social media clutter. (Don’t “troll”to long on Facebook)
  9. Stop It… Damn what they think!!! ( Don’t worry about other people just do you.)
  10. Kill complacency
  11. Keep Calm and enjoy life….

Charity Begins With Me…..

Charity – generosity and helpfulness especially toward the needy or suffering; also: aid given to those in need

I can consider myself a charitable and giving person. My heart bleeds whenever I see someone less fortunate than I am struggling to survive in this world. I was taught by my grandma to give to those who are less fortunate and pray for those who can’t pray for themselves. This October is a special month for me because I am involved in two charitable events which impact everyone.

Making Strides for Breast Cancer 5K Walk/Run

What: Making Strides for Breast Cancer 5k Walk/Run

When: Saturday, October 13, 2012 8:00 a.m.

Where: Laurelwood Shopping Center 426 S. Grove Park Road

Who will be participating:  TheFabulous T’s (my team) and everybody else

Additional Information: http://main.acsevents.org/goto/TheFabulousTs



Each year, I participate in the making strides for breast cancer walk sponsored by the American Cancer Society. Some people get it confused with Susan G. Komen annual breast cancer walk which is the end of October. This walk is in the beginning of October. It is held at Laurelwood Shopping Center located at 426 S. Grove Park Road, Memphis, Tn. This is time where thousands of people come with their teams, organizations, and families for one mission. The mission is to find a cure and provide a continuum care for those with breast cancer.  According the American Cancer Society making strides website,

Making Strides against Breast Cancer is the American Cancer Society’s nationwide series of walking events to raise funds and awareness to end breast cancer. Nationwide, more than 270 Making Strides walks occur each year, and each one is a powerful and inspiring opportunity to unite as a community to honor breast cancer survivors, raise awareness about what we can do to stay well, and raise money to help fight the disease with breast cancer research, information and services, and access to mammograms for women who need them. Walks range in distance from 3 to 5 miles.

I decided to become hands on this year because I have lost family members and friends due to cancer. I hope we will have a day when everyone in this nation becomes proactive in finding a cure. We should not let another family go through the suffering of losing a love one to this disease. Let us find ways of prevention, continue to provide for those who are struggling and give hope to families in need.

Operation Stand Down Memphis, Inc Veterans Stand Down Event

What: OSDM Veterans Stand Down

When: Saturday, October 27, 2012 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Where: UT Health and Science Center Doctors Field 255 S. Dunlap (Enter from union and located behind the McDonald’s

Who will be participating:  All Veterans and interested parties

Additional Information: www.osdmemphis.org

Contact: osdm2010@gmail.com

As a fellow veteran, my heart goes out to veterans and their families because they go through a lot. I have experience both sides of military life being a soldier and a wife of a soldier. I will tell you personally  it is not easy. It bothers to know there are homeless veterans whom exist here in the United States. It especially bothers me to know the homeless population now consists of veterans who are returning home from the Iraq and Afghanistan Wars. In fact 23 percent of the homeless population in the United States is veterans. Operation Stand Down Memphis, Inc core mission is to help homeless veterans through transitional programs and services to become effective citizens in their community. Each year, OSDM host a stand down. What is a stand down?

A “stand down” is a one-day military event where veterans can come in a comfortable atmosphere to receive vital information about healthcare, benefits, housing, or to join supported veterans’ organizations. The organization will provide food, entertainment, and clothing for the veterans.

Last year, OSDM held a stand down on November 2011during Veterans Day and they were able to service about 150 veterans across the mid-south area. OSDM supports the veterans throughout the year by collaborating with other community and national organizations. Also, they host quarterly informational session for veterans who are in rehabilitation centers here in Memphis. I urge to you help a veteran in their time of need. They were there for us constantly defending our country and protecting our freedom we enjoy and sometimes take for granted.

How To Recover After A Storm…


Recover—– To regain the strength, composure, balance or the like of (oneself) as defined by dictionary.com

I have heard that life is not a crystal stair. This line taken from the  poem written by one of the influential writers in history Langston Hughes sums up the trials we go through in life. We live our lives daily trying to make it to the next day.  None of us are prepared for the unexpected bumps in the road or storms. What is a storm? A storm is a disturbance of the normal condition of the atmosphere manifesting itself by winds of unusual force or direction as defined by dictionary.com. We have norms in our life that we live by everyday. When something unexpected happens, it really disturbs  the natural balance  in our life. What is there to do? How do you prepare for the unexpected? The answer is….. there is nothing you can do to prepare for the unexpected but there are ways to sustain yourself during the unexpected.

1. Realize that all storms are temporary.

I know this statement sounds a bit redundant but it is true. Have you ever known thunderstorm to last 365 days? If so please tell me…. When you are going through a storm, whether it’s a break-up, job loss, death of a family member or mental distortion, you have to remember this time is only temporary. The view may seem grim but the ride is short.   Sure, when you are going through, you think I cannot ever recover from this or you say to yourself what did I do to deserve this. You didn’t do anything and yes, you can recover from it.  The storm is there only to bring out the best in you.  Although, the wind is blowing and the lighting is flashing remember you having everything inside of you to defeat it. It’s ok to cry, grieve and get mad but after you do remember there is a battle you have to fight.

2. Learn to walk in the rain

When I was in the military, we used to run in the rain. Our drill Sargent would say to us ” If it is not raining, we ain’t training.” At that time, I could not gasp the concept but now I get a revitalizing feeling whenever I run or walk in the rain. Sounds Crazy??? The rain is needed on the earth to make plants grow. While you are going through your personal storm you can live and look good through it. Remember, the rain symbolizes growth so in this time you are growing into better person than you were before.

3. Evaluate your circles

As human beings , there is a deep desire to connect with others with the same background or ideas as us. We travel with circle of friends that stemmed from school, home or work. I like to classify  some of the people in my life as inner and outer circles. With my outer circle , these are people  are sometimes referred to as “associates” they could be business partners or classmates.  The inner circle is people whom I like to call my backbone. These people could write a whole book about me because they have stuck with me through the best of times and the worst of times. When you are going through a personal storm, you began to see who deserves to keep their place in your life. If you have someone who is willing to help you through the trenches  that person is a keeper. They usually are quiet  but can pray with you through the storm. The others will show their true colors once you are going through and they will be the first one to disappear in the first sign of danger. Those people you need to leave them alone and in the dust because they don’t deserve you. During the trying times, you will surely see which people are there to make you better and get rid of the ones who are there to kill your dream.

4. Find your place of peace

Finding your place of peace  is an easy mission to accomplish. Some people find their place of peace through prayer, meditation and reading of the scriptures. There is a sound peace in knowing there is someone greater than ourselves  who can handle the cares of the world. We can boldly go to them , tell them what is on our hearts and know that we are heard. Another way to find your place of peace is through the partaking in the arts such as listening to music, reading a book, drawing and writing. These outlets give our minds a break from all the commotion. It takes our mind to a peaceful place beyond our current surroundings. A change of scenery is another way to find your place of peace.  Getting away  or going out-of-town  always  brings a fresh renewal  to me.  You can take a long walk by the river or lake and just be still. This gets the mind  out of panic mode and forces it to relation mode.  Lastly, physical activity  can stimulate your mind as well as your body. Take a part of any physical activity  whether it’s dancing , exercising or playing sports. In the end, you will feel a sense of accomplishment from day to day.  To find your place of peace will help relieve the current stress and help focus on your next strategy.

Remember this, we all go through these storms or ills of life.  Yes, they are emotional , heartbreaking and stressful. In the end, you will be a better person than you were before. Take this time to focus on you and making yourself better for the next mission. Keep your eyes on the prize and never lose sight of your goal. After every storm, there is a rainbow and at end of  every rainbow there is a pot of gold. Make sure you find your pot of gold and hold on to it. What is that pot of gold? Hope for a brighter and richer future !

For Erica….