M.E.M.P.H.I.S. : A city plagued by race , poverty, and corruption.

Beautiful city in images but in reality it is living nightmare


“Woe to him who builds a city with bloodshed
    and establishes a town by injustice!
13 Has not the Lord Almighty determined
    that the people’s labor is only fuel for the fire,
    that the nations exhaust themselves for nothing?  Habakkuk 2:12-13

A city, a town , and a neighborhood I proudly called home. I would say it loud and proud, ” I was born and raised in Memphis, Tennessee”. Whenever I made this statement people would ask me generalized questions about Beale Street, Barbecue and Blues. This was home sweet home and it had a special place in heart. Once upon a time, the city I lived in loved each other of course we had our problems like any other city. We were proud a city which thrive on our accomplishments and had the ambition to prove the world wrong. Now, I can’t even call this once beloved city home anymore because it has become one big poverty, racial-biased and uneducated war zone. Who there to blame for the decline of my city? The people who still choose to live here.

I know this come to shock that an actual citizen is saying negative things about the city. For me, this post and my opinions are long overdue. So much, I do mean so much has happened in the city for a couple months. According to a Huffington Post  article 10 Most Dangerous Cities in America, Memphis is among the top five in fact WE ARE THIRD MOST DANGEROUS CITY . We have people and dirty politicians, who used to worked for county but got to the city became corrupted, have on rose-colored about the mere perception of Memphis as good. The city of Memphis has not or probably never will address these three things race, poverty and corruption.


When I was a little girl, my grandmother always told me the day Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated here on April 4, 1968, the city of Memphis will never be the same. She told me it was a like curse came over the city and people have been stuck in the racially enslaved mindset of the sixties. As a little girl, I did not believe it . I thought everyone loved everybody. As the older I got and traveled to other states, I would say Memphis is the most if not top racist cities in America. Everything is about color about race . Why is everyone so fixated on race? Most recent news in city of Memphis which made national headlines about Memphis police officer killed on Saturday August 1, 2015 during a traffic stop. Officer Sean Bolton responded to a car parked in a particular place. The shooter Tremaine Wilbourn shot the officer multiple times. As reported, he had two grams of marijuana on him and on probation. Monday August 3, 2015, Wilbourn turned himself in to police. This was in plight when Memphis Police Director Tony Armstrong put out massive hunt and publicly calling the shooter a “coward”.

In light of the situation, the city has not been more divided on race than ever. You have one side saying the shooter deserve the death penalty and never been on streets at all. On the other hand, there is another side claiming the shooter acted in self-defense and this payback for all the police brutality among African Americans. In the light of the black lives matter movement, this year has been a year police brutality ending in murder and killer walking free. Sandra Bland, Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Eric Gardner and here in Memphis Daurrius Stewart all have been the catalyst behind the black lives matter movement.  I do agree black lives do matter but do we scream that when black man kills another black man.  Two weeks ago, a teenager in my city ,who was about to go to college ,was killed over a basketball game by another black man. Where is the uproar on black lives matter?  This madness need to stop. We as citizens definitely need to stop looking at everything through black and white lenses. Race is not always issue but there are other contributing factors.  Do I believe racism still exists? Hell yeah, it still exists. The reason it still exists because of people with a close-minded attitude passing their ignorance to next generation and sensationalized by media coverage, which adds fuel to the fire. The beast of racism will always exist if only if we allow it to.


Poverty has always been the bastard issue that is lightly addressed. If you live in Memphis, you can make the ends meet if work for particular companies such as FedEx, Methodist, & Baptist hospitals and most importantly the city government.  If your degree or specialty falls outside the bubble, you are screwed.  Trust me , I personally know. The poverty rate in Memphis is 27.7%(35th highest) and there are 82.5% adults with high-school diplomas (82nd lowest) according to the Huffington Post. These stats tell me there is need for education. When I was growing up, my grandmother made sure I obtain not only high-school diploma but a college degree. My grandmother was a sharecropper and only obtained an eighth-grade level education. The city should pour their money into educational programs for adults instead of stuffing it in their pockets. On the other hand, people don’t need to wait on the government to educate, feed and take care of child. If you are able to part your eyes in the morning, you are master of destiny. Get up and make the necessary changes to make life for you better.  I encourage you those who are not from Memphis to take a drive around the city. Don’t travel to the Downtown Memphis area or Graceland but go North and South Memphis to see what I see. It hurts to me to see children to come to school because that is the only time they can eat. Come on, we got to do better.


Political corruption ain’t that America. It is alive and well in Memphis. It is my opinion the city as a whole would do so much better if they fire everyone. We have the same city leaders doing the same thing absolutely nothing. They sit in their chairs, get the perks and collect a check a fat one too. I urge the citizens of Memphis to vote all these folks out. Until then, we have the same stuff but a different day. As far as the current mayor of Memphis, A.C. Wharton, my opinion is it is time to turn off A.C. in this city. That’s all. This happens because once again we allow it to happen. Everyone is comfortable in their safety net until danger or trouble knocks on your door. Corruption will continue to go on until we finally exercise our right to vote instead of standing in line for some Jordans.

I feel this place is not home to me anymore. With all violence happening everyday, I have consider moving my family somewhere safe. It hurts me to core  my city has become what is war zone. Instead of teaching the children how to resolve a conflict, you have tell  them how dodge bullets and play dead if someone is shooting. This is not living not for me, for citizens and definitely for the average human being.

To citizens and politicians of Memphis,

It is high time for you to wake up or this city and everyone in it parish day by day.

What will be left of this mecca of the south? NOTHING






Upgrade U….. #Instagramvids

Since yesterday,  I wrote a story about The Missed Education of Social Media  whereas I spoke  about how social media has strayed away from its orignal purpose. In my story, I gave accolades to Instagram on being nothing more than posting pictures. As of today, Instagram  has let the floods gates opened by adding video. Now, on instagram you can add a 15 second video about anything.  Iphone users can record and view videos. Android users can only view videos as of now. So, now everybody is about to record everything and I do mean everything. We are going to witness some twerking videos, fights, and  Instagram beefs. Who knows!!!!  My prediction is that instagram is going to turn into another world star hip site. (no offense)  We about see the real s#$t go viral. So, strap on your seatbelts because this ride is going to be beyond crazy.

Let the games began.

May the cards ever be in your favor dear.


The Missed Education of Social Media

wizard of oz - dorothy and glinda

Social media is everywhere around us. We cannot escape it but embrace it. People want to feel loved and connected to others. People want to show off their talents, brag about accomplishments and portray all their drama. Everywhere you go it is.. tweet this, hashtag this, and facebook me at….. It is a new drug where it is hard to stay clean and sometimes sober. Don’t get me wrong I don’t have a problem with social media. Why should I have a problem when my background is in Public Relations. I feel that social media is starting to become this overpowering machine that has a tight hold of minds of normal citizens.
I first came in contact with social media through a small site called facebook. I was a freshman in college back in August 2004 when I heard about this site. I had no clue what it is or what it is to become. Facebook, then, was a site where college students connected with other college students. It was a place where you found so some of your high school friends whom you connected with over the years. It was simple. You had groups. You shared pictures. It was innocent and fun. Back then, the only way you can get a facebook account if you attended college. It was site strictly for college students. NOW, HOLY SHITBALLS, everybody is on facebook not only your friends, co-workers, teachers, parents and even pastors. LAWD JESUS even he has a page. It has become a zoo but all the cages are unlocked. People are putting their lives, dreams, and all of their drama on facebook. My timeline is always flooded with complete chaos, or vain people posting every picture of them (I’m guilty). Don’t you hate it when people make their life on facebook so awesome when in reality they spineless human beings that loathe in turmoil. I remember when facebook was a place you posted random thoughts like, “I’m going to class today with my pjs.” After your post, sixty other college students would like it. The times were simple. All the drama was on MySpace which was a page originally created with musicians but it became a phenomenon among people who couldn’t access facebook. The added perk was you could add music to it. Was that so grand??? Since, facebook opened the floodgates to everyone and their mama literally; people are losing their sane mind over these posts. I am firm believer in privacy and not letting everybody into your personal space. Jesus trusted Judas and see what happened there. I mean whatever thoughts people are thinking you know it on facebook. You have so many characters on facebook it is like a daytime soap, You have….
The Inspiring model The Liker
The Victim The Promoter
The Hated One The Rooster
Trust me these people take their jobs very seriously…hahaha( in the Elmer Fudd voice).
I wish for a day where things can go back to normal but that dream is highly impossible as long as mark zuckerberg is making that good money. We will have to deal with it. I want to divorce my facebook but I have connections through my nonprofit organization and plus I’m in public relations so I can’t let go…..
Today, people want to broadcast their every moment in life like it is a reality show and they want to feel connected to celebrities they adorn. Unless, Chris Brown is going loan me money for my student loans to repay then there is not any reason I need to connect with him. On the other hand, I guess some people are searching for important validation from their peers to feel special. Thus, they have to say this on facebook, tweet this thought and Instagram this photo of them doing nothing. Our generation thrives on the sense of belonging or being a part of a particular group. We say to the world I AM HERE. I AM IMPORTANT. There are other gripes I have with social media sites such as twitter, Instagram, and foursquare. I have not tried vine, path or socialcam, google plus because honestly I DON’T FEEL LIKE IT ….THERE!!!!
Foursquare was introduced to me by a good friend of mine. My first thought was what the hell is it? It is a social media site where you check in to the place where you are currently at. At first, I was game and checked in everywhere even in the comfort of my own home. Afterwards, I thought what if someone who truly hates me wants to kill me. This is person has access to my life 24/7. What was there to gain by checking into these places on foursquare? Points and Perks to gain some title that given to by foursquare …really. No thank you foursquare I will pass.
Twitter was something that was required of me to have as junior in college by one of my journalism classes. Once again my thought was…What the hell is this? So, I only have a 140 characters to say something meaningful and include a hashtag behind it. I thought to myself it was texting but on the computer. Later, I grown to love twitter like a stepson and began to engage in conversations. I mainly used twitter for the latest news, daily quotes and see what scandals broke out the celebrity world. Since then, I have fell off twitter because once again was not interesting. There is always some twitter beef or killing of celebrities so I gave twitter the deuces.
Instagram is probably one of the social media sites I am on right now. I like because it is nothing but pictures. It is some mild drama but nevertheless nothing but pictures. I love it. On Instagram, I can see some underground designers and candid shots of some of the celebrities I like. There has been some craziness about Instagram deleting accounts and selling your pictures but nothing diabolical as yet. I do believe Instagram and facebook will create Skynet…. Overall Instagram is ok with me …. For now
In the end, social media has become a gateway for people to explore different avenues, create new personalities, and achieve instant stardom. Can social media destroy the core values instill in us or can it rob us of our identity buried in our souls? I urge you not to rapture yourselves in circus whereas new acts are replaced every day. Use social media but use it wisely because whether you know it or not big brother is watching. I do wish for a day where people can fall from the desirable trance of social media and enjoy the important things in life. Until then, I will wish and dream….. THERE IS NO PLACE LIKE HOME, THERE IS NO PLACE LIKE HOME.

Death To The New Year Resolution…Start a Campaign !!!!!


Let us put an end to pointless New Year Resolutions…Start a Campaign. What I mean by that is to make a progressive plan towards a specific purpose this 2013 year. When I say progressive, I mean you are constantly working on achieving your goal and not starting and stopping after three weeks. It’s your time… Be Bold and Become a movement!!!

Steps to start your campaign.

  1. Create a simple plan. (Make plain and attainable to reach)
  2. Write your goal down and make it visible. (Use a card, sticky note or sheet a paper and write your goal for 2013 and place it somewhere where you can see it each day.)
  3. Do your research (Before embarking on a new project or relationship, make sure you do your homework and decide if  this is the best fit for you.)
  4. Close the revolving door. ( People that like to pop in and out your life gotta go!!!! You can wave at them from the window. )
  5. Have a Tiger mentality. Be Bold and Unafraid
  6. Take small steps to achieve a bigger goal.
  7. Surround yourself with innovate people. (Leeches and Snakes gotta go in 2013)
  8. Free your mind from social media clutter. (Don’t “troll”to long on Facebook)
  9. Stop It… Damn what they think!!! ( Don’t worry about other people just do you.)
  10. Kill complacency
  11. Keep Calm and enjoy life….

CheckTheRhyme Dec 20th: Sandy Rock Investigation, InstaGate, and Twitter Proposal


Today, on my “Check The Rhyme” segment I elaborate more on the Sandy Rock Massacre that took place on Friday, December 14, 2012 in Newtown, Connecticut. We know there were 26 people, There were 20 children and 6 adults killed. On Sunday, President Barrack Obama addressed the nation during the New England Patriots and San Francisco 49ers. Now, policy makers and citizens are looking into creating stricter gun policies to prevent a tragedy like this will never happen again. I think the gun policy should have been examined by our policy makers a long time ago. I’m thinking to myself how many people have to die in order for change to take place? Meanwhile, I did expressed how upset I was with my fellow journalists this week. As I have said many times before, I am graduate of a journalism program here in  my hometown. It really boiled my blood to see journalists interview children who witnessed the horrible actions that took placed. I mean really, are you that desperate to get a story. I thinking to myself,  where are your ethics? You know the class you had to sit through in order to graduate. I did commend Anderson Cooper on taking a stance not to interview children. In my opinion, gun policy is a serious topic and should be taken into account but what about mental illness? Most of these cases, some of the killers either a mental issue or have suffered traumatic experience in their lifetime. It seems like no one wants to reach out to them and help their situation. Hopefully, we can see some change before it’s too late. Also, this week Instagram changed their terms and conditions. They decided to advertise on Instagram but the rumor mill was they were going to sell your photos without compensation. So, everybody on instagram went bat s**t crazy. Celebrities like Lance Gross, Kevin Hart and even Kim Kardashian voiced about leaving the popular app because of changes that is due to take effect on  Jan 16th.  Instagram responded:

“Our intention in updating the terms was to communicate that we’d like to experiment with innovative advertising that feels appropriate on Instagram. Instead it was interpreted by many that we were going to sell your photos to others without any compensation. This is not true and it is our mistake that this language is confusing. To be clear: it is not our intention to sell your photos. We are working on updated language in the terms to make sure this is clear.” (VIA CBS)

Everybody responded on Instagram with the hashtag #DontWhoreMeOut announcing their discontent to new policy changes. We will see how this plays out. I am just waiting on the creation of SkyNet!!! Also in other news, Amy Whinehouse death case will be reopened soon. Dallas Cowboys won over the Pittsburgh Steelers with a score of 27-24 during overtime. GO COWBOYS!!! I AM COWBOY ON “STEEL HORSE I RIDE!!!!. Sorry, I had a crazy fan moment.  There might be possibility of All My Children and One Life To Live may come back on. *fingers crossed to bring back Erica Kane*. Deadmau5 proposed to Kat Von D over Twitter. I know I could not believe it either. We will see how this twitter proposal plays out. Best luck to the both of them. Rihanna steals the spot on my top jams for week with her song titled “Numb” featuring Eminem.

Inspirational Thought

“Failure and Fear ends today. On this day, you activate your faith.”


Due to the recent tragedy, what area should the government focus on gun control, school security procedures, mental health care, or implementation of religious practices (prayer in the schools)????

Answer it in the comments section below….Thanks

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Who In The Hell Left The Gate Open? My Review BBW episode

Well, I was hanging out with my friends at our usual spot on a Monday night when the debauchery on television happened. I was not at home to view the episode but with the  colorful Facebook and Twitter commentaries from my friends and followers. I had see what is was really going on. I was thinking to myself, what could be worst than Evelyn throwing bottles and jumping on top tables ? I stand corrected what would occurr was worst than that.

Usually, I don’t have a particular show I watch faithfully besides Unsung on a Monday. I did used to watch Basketball Wives regularly when show first premiered a couple of years ago. I thought the concept of ex-ballers wives was intriguing concept especially when the show’s creator Shaunie O’Neal was married to one of biggest NBA players in the game. I had my picks and opinions about women who graced the show. Lately, some of the celebrities like Wendy Williams and Sherri Shepherd are speaking out against the show. In my opinion, I thought that the show was losing some of its essence. It was not entertaining anymore to me to say the least. The madness between these grown a** women was a bewildering sight to see. Who acts like this? Just like the Real Housewives of Atlanta some of the people in the show seem to play heavily on the public’s perception of them.  We knew already who was going to do what on the show. It was like watching a circus where the characters never changed.  It seems like some of  the people on BBW was trying to get a little  bit more attention this year on the show so they can promote spin offs or products.  Good Job Evelyn and Jenn!!!

There is something about Tami…….

The person who I absolutely loved to watch the most was Tami Roman. She was on the cast of MTV Real World in mind I think was the first reality show. What I liked about Tami is that she was real. She told the truth about her lifestyle, being on food stamps and like drinking Bud Light. I could identify with Tami as far being blunt and the anger management issues back in the day. As some people could see, Tami will defend herself at drop of a hat. In her famous phrase, ” See that right there is going get you popped” served as a warning before the Wrath of Roman came upon you. Tami admitted during the show that she had a tremulous childhood and upbringings caused her going into these spats of rages. Tami would tell her counterparts to confront her first before you go to anyone else. They never seem adhere to what she says. Meanwhile, they talk to  Suzie, who can’t  hold water to save her life, about Tami in the result she tells Tami. I understand Tami’s point of view meanwhile she should not go pop off on every little opinion said about her that is not acceptable. As the old saying goes, ” It’s not what people call you. It’s what you answer to.” When I saw how Tami treated ,the new wife and cast member, Keisha by withholding her purse , I was floored. I HAVE NEVER SEEN MADDNESS LIKE THIS BEFORE. I could not even watch the whole episode.  I was sick to the bottom of stomach. The basis of the conflict was pointless and stupid. So she said she would go off on you.  So what?!?! You didn’t have to take her purse. There’s have to be something   deeper than that for the anger to build up to the point whereas there is a possible act of violence that could occur.

I once too was a Tami….

I know and feel where Tami is coming from because I’ve been in that situation before. I have gotten into an altercation with a mutual friend over something in the end was pointless. Although, I didn’t threaten to do body harm to them openly but the way I carried out the situation was immature. I sat down carefully evaluated where all this anger stemmed from. I realized it came from previous little encounters that I never addressed and it became an unsettled monster. The smallest thing sent me through the roof. After a year of evaluation, I realized that I have wasted time and energy on matter that could had a better outcome. I reacted without thinking and did not use logic. I think that Tami should evaluate the meat of beef between her Keisha and find a common ground. In the end, can’t we all just get along.

Don’t Place The Blame on Tami. There are others….

Tami issued an apology on Twitter the night the episode aired. I recently tried to find her on Twitter and it said “User Not Found.” I guess from all the backlash received she decided to temporary delete her account. Here is Tami’s statement from of my good friend website Ronaldmatters.com

“I just landed in NYC, but I did catch 2nites episode on the plane. As I said earlier, this was BAD, wrong & immature-I apologize…I’m not proud of my behavior, but I own up to it and face it. I do apologize 2my family, my friends, my kids & 2 my cast members.The supporters who have been there, I’m sorry I let U down-this was not handled properly & I felt bad THEN and now. I simply ask that U b respectful 2my kids-they R NOT on BBW & do not control my actions on the show. Don’t become what U criticize. I would have blogged this but I wanted 2 address it as soon as I landed. Accept it or not, I acknowledge & apologize to ALL involved”

I tweeted Tami that night and told her that I respect that she acknowledge her wrong doing and that we are all human. Don’t put all of your focus on Tami Roman!!! There are others behind the scene who are held responsible. All throughout the episode, the women were backing Tami up on keeping Keisha’s purse. Evelyn was making a joke about some sunglasses she had in her possession and Shaunie  watch the train wreck happened. Rewind back, the girls plotted to put dead fish the other women’s’ rooms. So we are in high school now??? This is what grown women with money do in their spare time. Oh Hell To The No!!!!!! (RIP Whitney Houston). Let’s look behind the scenes  and see who is at fault?
I think everyone is at fault. I look at the whole Tami/Keisha situation like this… Have you ever been in a grocery store and seen a bad child just doing everything out-of-order? You don’t blame the child. You look at the parent not stepping up and taming that child. I look at Basketball Wives fiasco as a child and production company/creator the responsible parent. I’m sure that there were people in place to have a say what is shown on the air. I maybe wrong but please let me know. Nobody saw this as a problem before until some of the advertisers pulled  their funding. All I’m saying , someone should have stepped up and prevented this from happening. People in reality show business are not concerned about content or relevance.  They are only concerned about ratings, more ratings, money, and more money. As along as they got people who are willing to show their ass on national television then the show will go on.

What Can You Do????