&%*% Never Loved Us… Mistreatment of Veterans in America

Nigga never loved us Do it look like we stressin’? Look at you, look at you, and look at you, Ah – I’m glad that they chose us Command, it’s a mission, Trying to fight to the finish just to see ’em all finish



As I listen to Drake’s song Worst Behavior, he yells, “Motherfuckers never loved us.” He began to talk about his innocent beginnings on Degrassi to rap stardom. This particular line stuck with me. It is anthem for all people who has been ousted but still succeeded. I can relate to this song but more so I can relate this to the many men and women who have sacrificed time, money and even their lives to serve their countries. These men and women are your United States veterans.


For many of you reading my blog for the first time, I am proud veteran of the United States Army. I devoted my life for four years to this unique core. I joined like most teenagers for the college money and to find my own pathway in life. I thought the war in Iraq was a joke and even the president at time was even bigger joker. Nevertheless, I was proud to serve my country only with the expectation that my country will be willing to serve me. My husband, who is a combat engineer, did two tours in Iraq and Afghanistan. During his time there, he has felt a lot pain due to being away from home and even losing a friend in battle. My husband still kept fighting because he vowed to so. So, I began to think about these great men and women who take the time to raise their hand to defend flag and serve their country. In return, they come home to unsuitable living conditions, the constant runaround from Veterans Affairs, and the ills of dealing with life after war. Our soldiers reach for a helping hand but there are few hands who will reach back.


Majority of the veterans come home to nothing. They have dealt with so much on the battlefield but still have to fight for basic human needs. Human needs such benefits, medical, housing and mental health. Lately, the Department of Veterans Affairs has failed our comrades every time. You can talk to any veteran and they will tell you the VA is a bad place to be. Why should these men and women fight for these benefits that are guaranteed? On the other hand, if the country is need for soldiers to fight for an unknown cause, we answer. This is unfair not only to veterans but their families. The families of veterans are dealing with the war too. They try to make their home and life suitable but cannot due lack of resources. Not only, you are hurting the veteran but the family is suffering too.


What is the problem? Where is all the money allotted to veterans? Yes, we want to honor them and say “Thank you for your service” every November. After the fanfare and all the bells and whistles are gone, we go back into our homes and live the life of luxury and forget what they fought for. Remember…… all the wars and the flag draped coffins we seen on TV. So, I charge our government taking money away from the military budget and cut your damn salary. If it was not for us, you would not have opportunity fight like a bunch of hens in a farmhouse.


For the Department of Veterans Affairs, stop giving our veterans the run around. Stop the fucking madness….It kills me to hear some of the stories about veterans dying at VA hospital or being evicted from their homes with nowhere to go. When these veterans come to apply for their benefits…. YOU BETTA HAVE THEIR MONEY WHEN THEY COME FOR IT LIKE ODB. Take care of them because this is what you are paid to do. Show them some respect and treat them like if that was your family member. I give credit to the people who are working at VA helping veterans. I applaud you but I am calling out the folks who come just to collect a check. HAVE SEVERAL SEATS and find a job at WALMART.


I don’t charge just VA. I take account every one of just who call ourselves Americans. Do not just sit back and shake your head whenever you see a homeless veteran. Help them out it us up us to help our own because the government are pussyfooting around. You be the change. You be catalyst of change for a veteran who feels like a refugee in their own country. Volunteer for a nonprofit organization to get our vets back on their feet. Donate your time, clothing and food to one who fought for you to give.


Military organizations, stop being social club just to gather and talk about old times. These young veterans need you to guide them into this new world. Don’t just be a standing organization but be an active organization within the community. VA cannot do this alone they need your help. These veterans are hurting and as I remember we should never leave a fallen comrade behind. Take charge and take care of our own not yesterday but right now. Churches, they need your help too. You are the hands and feet of God on earth. Your mission is save those who are hurting. Take time and pray with them. Trust me prayer goes a long way. Talk to them and become that spiritual light they need to deliver them shadows of darkness.


Some of fellow soldiers of mine died so we live in unstable society. Whenever we need them to put on the uniform, they go. They leave behind so much. Their families deal with so much. I know I am military wife and the tears I’ve cried could hydrate a football team for the rest of their lifetime. It pains me to see a veteran standing on the side of the road asking for help. It pains me to see a homeless veteran living out their car or in extended stay. They come home to nothing but grief and mental ills the battlefield has afflicted upon them. These are people not refugees. They are our own brothers and sisters. Honor your vets every day.


Let us fight to eliminate two words: Homeless Veteran

When it comes to how America treats our veterans, we are on our worst behavior.


Dedicated to Chad Young #foreveryoung


“I Won’t Let This Commercialism Ruin My Christmas” Tiff’s Christmas Story

“I Won’t Let This Commercialism Ruin My Christmas”

Tiff’s Christmas Story


            As a little girl, I have always enjoyed Christmas and the spirit that surrounds it. People seem to be little bit nicer and kinder to each other during the holidays. This is a time in your own unique way can show your Christmas spirit towards each other. I had a ritual around Christmas time that I stick to this day. I had to see the following Christmas movies; Charlie Brown’s Christmas, Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, Christmas Story( you’ll shoot your eye out), and National Lampoon Christmas Vacation. I always loved the Charlie Brown’s Christmas story because of the message behind. While everyone was caught up in the materialistic side of Christmas, Charlie Brown stuck to the true meaning of Christmas by having a little bitty Christmas tree. As he stated, “I won’t let all this commercialism ruin my Christmas.” I think me and Charlie Brown could agree. Honestly, I think people have forgotten the true meaning of Christmas. Instead, we are fighting for the last flat screen television and knocking someone out for it (Sorry Manny Pacquiao…) during black Friday.  This is a time we spend with our families and share in the joy of the holiday. Moreover, we give back to the children and families who are not able to have anything under the tree and on the table. In my belief system, I believe that we are the hands and feet of God and if you have done to least of them, you have also paid honor to him. I know during the time of the immense fiscal cliff, where people have no jobs, losing homes, and sometimes losing their hope and faith it is hard to smile. I know personally in 2012 I have gone through a lot. Despite of it all, I still smile.  I have been through a lot such as

  • Losing two family members (grandmother and uncle) to some form of cancer.
  • Having a best friend of mine constantly going in and out of the hospital.
  • The frustration of college graduate and not being able to find a job in her field and living off one income
  • Being unemployed (everyone can agree with that)
  • Dealing me and my husband mental health.

This year alone I have been diagnosed with moderate depression and there were times I could not get out of bed. Instead, I would take sleeping pills and hang up dark curtains in my windows to block out the sunshine. I had so many negative thoughts and even doubted my faith. As Christian, this walk gets so hard that even you lose your faith in God. Imagine me, I was singing in choir pretending to have it all together but falling apart day by day. I became a moving zombie with no emotions, dreams or aspirations. Until one day, there was a ray of light shine through my dark tomb I built of shame, disappointment, and personal failure. Day by Day I climbed and pressed my way through past what I was feeling.  Now, I am grateful I have overcome depression with joy, peace, clarity and hunger for infinite wisdom.  Even though, I don’t have as much I am truly grateful for living and ability to tell my story to you. Even though the situation around you looks grim, I have hope in the fact over the mountain there is sunshine. I’m sure it gets hard to climb but keep pushing through. The most important thing I learn is you are not only one going through it.  There is someone else who has been where you are and can provide words of wisdom to help you.

How can you make this Christmas better for you???

  • Be appreciative of things you do have.

Reflect on the positive things in your life and hope for better things to come.

  • Be Proactive in your community

Try to volunteer at a homeless shelter, give a toy to a child, or donate to worthy cause. Charity is the greatest gift you can give to another.

  • Forgive and Let It Go

Unforgiveness is like carrying a building on your back. It gets heavy, makes you angry all the time and clouds your judgment.

The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to forgive someone who hurt you. Trust me it is not for them but it is for you. You can write a letter or send a Christmas card afterwards put it out your mind and move on .

  • Spend time with the ones you love

This is time where family is important and the centerpiece of the holiday. Take the time out and spend with your family especially the elder members because you never know if this Christmas will be their last.

  • Give a hug

Shock the hell out of someone you can’t stand and give them hug. See their reaction. Invoke your positive spirit into them. If they ask, you just stay, “ It’s looks like you need one.”


In conclusion, make this Christmas a good one for you and the people around by staying positive. I hope one Christmas day, people can share the love and get back to true meaning of Christmas.  I leave you words from my favorite Christmas song by  Steve Wonder


Someday at Christmas there’ll be no wars
When we have learned what Christmas is for
When we have found what life’s really worth
There’ll be peace on earth

Someday all our dreams will come to be
Someday in a world where men are free
Maybe not in time for you and me
But someday at Christmastime

Someday at Christmas we’ll see a land
With no hungry children, no empty hand
One happy morning people will share
Our world where people care

Someday at Christmas there’ll be no tears
All men are equal and no men have fears
One shining moment, one prayer away
From our world today

Someday all our dreams will come to be
Someday in a world where men are free
Maybe not in time for you and me
But someday at Christmastime

I dedicated this story my angel who still watches over me to this day and she taught me the true meaning of Christmas. Even though on December 15th leaves a damper on my heart, I know we are never apart. I love you Grandma



Da Jam For The Day 5/31/12

Blow—- Amerie

Amerie, now like to referred to as Ameriie,  is an exotic singer with the lite soprano voice. Ameriie came onto the scene in the 2000 with her debut album All I Have. Since, she has had some hits like Why Don’t We Fall In Love , Talkin 2 Me, 1 Thing and Why R U? This song “Blow” was  on her Because I Love it mixtape. Yes, she did had a mixtape. “Blow” gives a hard rock feel that gets you going. It is currently one the songs of my workout playlist that I get really amped about. The song talks about her dream to making in the music  business and how the determination keeps her going forth. My favorite line is when she says, ” The one and only reason I don’t stop. Because I love it”  that line describes how I feel about making on day in Public Relations. I can definitely say this is my go-getter theme song. Whenever I’m feeling down about not making in the Public Relations business, I listen to this song and I keep pushing. I do believe one day I am going to Blow.

If I could classify this song, I would say this a TRUE MOTIVATION GO GETTER THEME song.

Go Get It—Mary Mary

I absolutely love Mary Mary songs. They give true inspiration with a gospel ministering feel. Mary Mary is the contemporary gospel that fuse R&B stylings with a positive gospel message. As they expressed, the gospel is supposed to inspire and help people outside the church walls.”Go Get It” is definitely as inspirational song for anyone who believes in achieving their purpose. I heard this song while I was in depressive stage. God gave me a vision and it didn’t seem  like it was going to manifest. I got discouraged until I heard this song and it made believe in my vision again.  There is verse in this song that speaks to me a lot.

“Yo Faith ain’t never small that’s what brought you this far See you got your dreams and you got your prayers and you got Yo God he gone take you there See everybody has a season and I believe this one’s yours Cuz you been workin, waitin, this what you been prayin for.”

The vocal stylings of the Erica and Tina are so powerful. It gives that old gospel down home feel when you hear their voice. The beat composed by producer Warryn Campbell makes it very hot track.

If I could classify this song, it would be PICK YOURSELF UP song.