“Woe to him who builds a city with bloodshed
and establishes a town by injustice!
13 Has not the Lord Almighty determined
that the people’s labor is only fuel for the fire,
that the nations exhaust themselves for nothing? Habakkuk 2:12-13
A city, a town , and a neighborhood I proudly called home. I would say it loud and proud, ” I was born and raised in Memphis, Tennessee”. Whenever I made this statement people would ask me generalized questions about Beale Street, Barbecue and Blues. This was home sweet home and it had a special place in heart. Once upon a time, the city I lived in loved each other of course we had our problems like any other city. We were proud a city which thrive on our accomplishments and had the ambition to prove the world wrong. Now, I can’t even call this once beloved city home anymore because it has become one big poverty, racial-biased and uneducated war zone. Who there to blame for the decline of my city? The people who still choose to live here.
I know this come to shock that an actual citizen is saying negative things about the city. For me, this post and my opinions are long overdue. So much, I do mean so much has happened in the city for a couple months. According to a Huffington Post article 10 Most Dangerous Cities in America, Memphis is among the top five in fact WE ARE THIRD MOST DANGEROUS CITY . We have people and dirty politicians, who used to worked for county but got to the city became corrupted, have on rose-colored about the mere perception of Memphis as good. The city of Memphis has not or probably never will address these three things race, poverty and corruption.
When I was a little girl, my grandmother always told me the day Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated here on April 4, 1968, the city of Memphis will never be the same. She told me it was a like curse came over the city and people have been stuck in the racially enslaved mindset of the sixties. As a little girl, I did not believe it . I thought everyone loved everybody. As the older I got and traveled to other states, I would say Memphis is the most if not top racist cities in America. Everything is about color about race . Why is everyone so fixated on race? Most recent news in city of Memphis which made national headlines about Memphis police officer killed on Saturday August 1, 2015 during a traffic stop. Officer Sean Bolton responded to a car parked in a particular place. The shooter Tremaine Wilbourn shot the officer multiple times. As reported, he had two grams of marijuana on him and on probation. Monday August 3, 2015, Wilbourn turned himself in to police. This was in plight when Memphis Police Director Tony Armstrong put out massive hunt and publicly calling the shooter a “coward”.
In light of the situation, the city has not been more divided on race than ever. You have one side saying the shooter deserve the death penalty and never been on streets at all. On the other hand, there is another side claiming the shooter acted in self-defense and this payback for all the police brutality among African Americans. In the light of the black lives matter movement, this year has been a year police brutality ending in murder and killer walking free. Sandra Bland, Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Eric Gardner and here in Memphis Daurrius Stewart all have been the catalyst behind the black lives matter movement. I do agree black lives do matter but do we scream that when black man kills another black man. Two weeks ago, a teenager in my city ,who was about to go to college ,was killed over a basketball game by another black man. Where is the uproar on black lives matter? This madness need to stop. We as citizens definitely need to stop looking at everything through black and white lenses. Race is not always issue but there are other contributing factors. Do I believe racism still exists? Hell yeah, it still exists. The reason it still exists because of people with a close-minded attitude passing their ignorance to next generation and sensationalized by media coverage, which adds fuel to the fire. The beast of racism will always exist if only if we allow it to.
Poverty has always been the bastard issue that is lightly addressed. If you live in Memphis, you can make the ends meet if work for particular companies such as FedEx, Methodist, & Baptist hospitals and most importantly the city government. If your degree or specialty falls outside the bubble, you are screwed. Trust me , I personally know. The poverty rate in Memphis is 27.7%(35th highest) and there are 82.5% adults with high-school diplomas (82nd lowest) according to the Huffington Post. These stats tell me there is need for education. When I was growing up, my grandmother made sure I obtain not only high-school diploma but a college degree. My grandmother was a sharecropper and only obtained an eighth-grade level education. The city should pour their money into educational programs for adults instead of stuffing it in their pockets. On the other hand, people don’t need to wait on the government to educate, feed and take care of child. If you are able to part your eyes in the morning, you are master of destiny. Get up and make the necessary changes to make life for you better. I encourage you those who are not from Memphis to take a drive around the city. Don’t travel to the Downtown Memphis area or Graceland but go North and South Memphis to see what I see. It hurts to me to see children to come to school because that is the only time they can eat. Come on, we got to do better.
Political corruption ain’t that America. It is alive and well in Memphis. It is my opinion the city as a whole would do so much better if they fire everyone. We have the same city leaders doing the same thing absolutely nothing. They sit in their chairs, get the perks and collect a check a fat one too. I urge the citizens of Memphis to vote all these folks out. Until then, we have the same stuff but a different day. As far as the current mayor of Memphis, A.C. Wharton, my opinion is it is time to turn off A.C. in this city. That’s all. This happens because once again we allow it to happen. Everyone is comfortable in their safety net until danger or trouble knocks on your door. Corruption will continue to go on until we finally exercise our right to vote instead of standing in line for some Jordans.
I feel this place is not home to me anymore. With all violence happening everyday, I have consider moving my family somewhere safe. It hurts me to core my city has become what is war zone. Instead of teaching the children how to resolve a conflict, you have tell them how dodge bullets and play dead if someone is shooting. This is not living not for me, for citizens and definitely for the average human being.
To citizens and politicians of Memphis,
It is high time for you to wake up or this city and everyone in it parish day by day.
What will be left of this mecca of the south? NOTHING
Today, the media and music makes many women believe that being the “side chick” is acceptable. From Being Mary Jane to our most celebrated side chick Olivia Pope, women think second best is better than being alone. Trust me, I rather be alone then play second to someone else. Before I dive into my story, let us define a side chick:
Side chick is a woman who is the mistress or jump off for a man who is in a relationship.
There are legion of women who does not think they are the side chick. Some women feel like , “I am helping him through a difficult time” or ” I am doing things which better satisfies him at the moment.” Don’t get it twisted men can be side pieces too but now let us focus on the women. I believe with glorifying the side chick in today society has put damper some women self-worth. It has caused some women to settle for anything. In reality, we are more worth than our hips and thighs. We deserve respect . Remember, he will never ever leave his wife, baby mama, or girlfriend. If you are side chick, know your place at all times. Although, the chemistry between you and him may get intense; it is the same feeling you get when you are on a roller coaster. We all know what that feeling is, it happens and then it is over. How things can get complicated for a side chick if she begins to feel more affection towards her dude. Then, we began to see the twitter posts, the instagram pictures and finally the facebook rants Now, you may have one of those special cases where side chick will get upgrade to main one. Don’t you forget if he pulled you from the same situation please believe history will repeat itself. Who wants to live with that stress?
As I said earlier men can become side dudes too. Men seem to play it much cooler but you do have those special situations. *sips tea*
They know there is no chance in hell she would leave her man. She might leave him under special circumstances. Some side dudes not all know their role in her life. With a side dude, it is more like a stick and move situation. Men don’t like dealing with drama. Side dude come in finish the mission and leave. They are the Ray Allen of the team. He is not the main player but he gets buckets. Don’t get it twisted men can get caught up too just like women. Those special circumstances side dudes can feel like I can take his place or worst off become her second husband. When this starts to happens, it is time girlfriend to exit stage left. Especially, if you are in committed relationship or even worse married. This person has nothing to lose but you do. No matter how good the sex is or if he just bought you the new designer bag. It is time to GO!!!!! The best thing to do is get with someone who has as much to lose as do. Make sure they know the situation beforehand and stick strictly by the guidelines that are set in motion. In the end, it is not cute to brag about being second best or having someone on the side that ‘s if you are in committed relationship. For the single people, have fun because you are shopping around for perfect mate or the perfect bait *wink*
Just in case you don’t know if you are the side piece. Here are some signs…..
1. He/She calls you but you can’t call him.
2. You only go to certain places or don’t go out at all.
3. Never ever met the family.
4. Forget major holidays….your days start the day after.
In conclusion, I am not advocating to step out but we are human. We’re attracted to the forbidden fruit for the thrill of it. You don’t believe me. Remember ,when you were younger and your parents told you not to do something but you did for the hell of it. It is in our nature. Never settle for second best there are some men and women who looking for commitment. The problem is the waiting around for superman or wonder woman. Word of advice: Wait for true love to find you because it will better than being a side piece.
My mom always told me if a man wants to be with you, he will find any way to be with you.
You curse my name
In spite to put me to shame
Have my laundry in the streets
Dirty or clean
Give it up for fame
But I still don’t know why
Why I love it so much
Well…………where can I start….
On Sunday November 9, 2014, I was at the drive-in with my family watching Big Hero 6. So, I happened to pick my Samsung note and go through my facebook feed. My dear college buddy and fellow blogger Ronald Matters *shameless plug www.ronaldmatters.com * posted a video about 107th COGIC convention about a gay man being delivered from homosexuality. I watched the clip like others for pure entertainment. I thought to myself, “This is going to blow over by the morning.” I was so wrong since we are living in social media/viral world we have become today. Monday morning, all hell has broken loose and started a holy war. I think this almost bad as wars we fought in the past. On one side, you have LGBT community and other side you have religious people. Baby, it has been some name calling, sentencing people to hell shade throwing extravaganza. In the midst of all the smoke, there is deep wound that is left to be healed.
For those who know me, I am an advocate for the LBGT community some of my best friends are a part of that community. I have been raised love people no matter what background or sexual orientation. We are all precious in his sight. The concept that sickens me mostly in the church is is placing one sin higher than other. Trust, I have not yet met a human being who have walked this earth and not sinned. Who am I judge or cast the first stone? I am from Memphis where the COGIC first stated by Bishop Charles Mason. I known the COGIC community to be saved, sanctified and filled with Holy Ghost. As I have always been told by my parents. On the other hand, I have some terrible stories about people being shunned from this community due to their life choices. It amazing the most brutal and hateful acts can come within the church. The only thing I have against the COGIC church all the hats, diamonds and furs they draped themselves in. Jesus didn’t have diamonds and furs….I am not perfect Christian and I am not on the platform to preach. This clip shown on YouTube and has now gain over thousand views caused this wound to be open again.
There has always been disconnect with LGBT community and church. You have one side saying, “Love me accept me for who I am.” Then you have the other side saying, ” What you have chosen to be is not acceptable in God’s eye.” This caused a lot of people not just gay but straight to stray away from the church and seek peace on their own terms. It like a brick wall that blocking a bridge for peace and understand between the sides. Although, the Berlin Wall has been torn down for years now, this wall seems to be unbreakable. We continue to put drapes on it by covering up who we really are only to be accepted by people who frankly does not give a damn about us. We continue to paint the wall with lies from the past and one-sided scriptures. It’s no longer a wall it is apart of the house now. It will take a person to say enough is enough with the Tom foolery and bring in hardcore facts.
Here are my thoughts; I don’t know what this young man was going through. It is not in place to know that is between him and God. I do have a spirit of discernment and part of me believes him. What he was delivered from still hangs and the balance. Although, I must say I never seen a bowtie like his. *sips tea* I urge this is not the time to play judge and jury over how people choose to live. Whether you know it or not, we are living in the last days, it is time to get your house in order. As a community, we must come together and hear both sides of the story and find a solution. If we let our close-minded thinking rule as a number one factor on accepting all people then we will forever be lost. I ask put the weapons down and come together on something. Love is key and all that matters.
I’ll end this story with Frankie Beverly and Maze …. listen to lyrics.
Nigga never loved us Do it look like we stressin’? Look at you, look at you, and look at you, Ah – I’m glad that they chose us Command, it’s a mission, Trying to fight to the finish just to see ’em all finish
As I listen to Drake’s song Worst Behavior, he yells, “Motherfuckers never loved us.” He began to talk about his innocent beginnings on Degrassi to rap stardom. This particular line stuck with me. It is anthem for all people who has been ousted but still succeeded. I can relate to this song but more so I can relate this to the many men and women who have sacrificed time, money and even their lives to serve their countries. These men and women are your United States veterans.
For many of you reading my blog for the first time, I am proud veteran of the United States Army. I devoted my life for four years to this unique core. I joined like most teenagers for the college money and to find my own pathway in life. I thought the war in Iraq was a joke and even the president at time was even bigger joker. Nevertheless, I was proud to serve my country only with the expectation that my country will be willing to serve me. My husband, who is a combat engineer, did two tours in Iraq and Afghanistan. During his time there, he has felt a lot pain due to being away from home and even losing a friend in battle. My husband still kept fighting because he vowed to so. So, I began to think about these great men and women who take the time to raise their hand to defend flag and serve their country. In return, they come home to unsuitable living conditions, the constant runaround from Veterans Affairs, and the ills of dealing with life after war. Our soldiers reach for a helping hand but there are few hands who will reach back.
Majority of the veterans come home to nothing. They have dealt with so much on the battlefield but still have to fight for basic human needs. Human needs such benefits, medical, housing and mental health. Lately, the Department of Veterans Affairs has failed our comrades every time. You can talk to any veteran and they will tell you the VA is a bad place to be. Why should these men and women fight for these benefits that are guaranteed? On the other hand, if the country is need for soldiers to fight for an unknown cause, we answer. This is unfair not only to veterans but their families. The families of veterans are dealing with the war too. They try to make their home and life suitable but cannot due lack of resources. Not only, you are hurting the veteran but the family is suffering too.
What is the problem? Where is all the money allotted to veterans? Yes, we want to honor them and say “Thank you for your service” every November. After the fanfare and all the bells and whistles are gone, we go back into our homes and live the life of luxury and forget what they fought for. Remember…… all the wars and the flag draped coffins we seen on TV. So, I charge our government taking money away from the military budget and cut your damn salary. If it was not for us, you would not have opportunity fight like a bunch of hens in a farmhouse.
For the Department of Veterans Affairs, stop giving our veterans the run around. Stop the fucking madness….It kills me to hear some of the stories about veterans dying at VA hospital or being evicted from their homes with nowhere to go. When these veterans come to apply for their benefits…. YOU BETTA HAVE THEIR MONEY WHEN THEY COME FOR IT LIKE ODB. Take care of them because this is what you are paid to do. Show them some respect and treat them like if that was your family member. I give credit to the people who are working at VA helping veterans. I applaud you but I am calling out the folks who come just to collect a check. HAVE SEVERAL SEATS and find a job at WALMART.
I don’t charge just VA. I take account every one of just who call ourselves Americans. Do not just sit back and shake your head whenever you see a homeless veteran. Help them out it us up us to help our own because the government are pussyfooting around. You be the change. You be catalyst of change for a veteran who feels like a refugee in their own country. Volunteer for a nonprofit organization to get our vets back on their feet. Donate your time, clothing and food to one who fought for you to give.
Military organizations, stop being social club just to gather and talk about old times. These young veterans need you to guide them into this new world. Don’t just be a standing organization but be an active organization within the community. VA cannot do this alone they need your help. These veterans are hurting and as I remember we should never leave a fallen comrade behind. Take charge and take care of our own not yesterday but right now. Churches, they need your help too. You are the hands and feet of God on earth. Your mission is save those who are hurting. Take time and pray with them. Trust me prayer goes a long way. Talk to them and become that spiritual light they need to deliver them shadows of darkness.
Some of fellow soldiers of mine died so we live in unstable society. Whenever we need them to put on the uniform, they go. They leave behind so much. Their families deal with so much. I know I am military wife and the tears I’ve cried could hydrate a football team for the rest of their lifetime. It pains me to see a veteran standing on the side of the road asking for help. It pains me to see a homeless veteran living out their car or in extended stay. They come home to nothing but grief and mental ills the battlefield has afflicted upon them. These are people not refugees. They are our own brothers and sisters. Honor your vets every day.
Let us fight to eliminate two words: Homeless Veteran
When it comes to how America treats our veterans, we are on our worst behavior.
Dedicated to Chad Young #foreveryoung
This is a good friend of mine. Make sure you go out and support real music. He will have a release party on Friday, March 28, 2014.
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Snipes will have a CD release party for his new album “The Classic Soul Project” on Friday, March 28th at 9 p.m. at 409 S. Main Street in Memphis. The Mid-South singer collaborated on the album with Memphis producer KingPin Da Composer. You can find out more about Snipes by following him on twitter at www.twitter.com/snipes901.
Hopefully, Apple tries something new with this iphone. There has been lack of creativity in years since their primary innovator. Google with the android market is constantly reinventing itself while Apple keeps putting out the same thing with different colors. It is my opinion. All ask is for Apple is to step of their game soon.
There’s a cheaper iPhone, but for now it’s only being sold in the UK.
The new model, the 8-gigabyte iPhone 5C, is now on Apple’s UK website.
It’s more than $60 cheaper than the 16-gigabyte version, which sells for just under $800 in the UK.
Analysts say Apple has been under pressure for the last six months to lower the price of the iPhone 5C, which had been expected to come at a cheaper price tag than it did.